Is Being a Mum in New York City a Real Struggle?
For many of us, being a mum in New York City is no easy feat. The other day, I was reading in The New York Times that mothers are facing an incredibly challenging time at the moment. The reasons for this are manifold, with the high cost of living, the expense of children’s activities, and the constant demand on time being some of the most pressing issues.
The Financial Strain
One of the most significant challenges is the financial strain. Living in New York City is notoriously expensive, and raising children here only adds to the burden. From high rent prices to costly childcare, the financial pressure can be overwhelming. Everyday necessities, such as groceries and transportation, already stretch many family budgets thin. On top of that, there’s the cost of extracurricular activities. Adding expensive activities to that is another challenge.
Time Demands
Time is another scarce resource for New York mums (and dads!). Our agendas fill up very quickly as we are constantly solicited. Kids have many activities that we want to support for their development and socialization, but we often work a lot and need to organize everything meticulously. The other day, it took me 1 hour and 30 minutes to organize a playdate… That’s crazy! Balancing work, household responsibilities, and childcare is a juggling act that requires tremendous effort and organization.
The Emotional Toll
Most of the time, we find ourselves alone with no support system. This often leaves mothers with little to no time for themselves. Is it strange if we often face burnout and stress? The emotional toll of these pressures cannot be understated. The constant worry about life, household, and work, coupled with the desire to provide the best for their children, creates a heavy burden. The hustle and bustle of city life, while exciting, can also contribute to a sense of fatigue. Mums are often running, without even having time to say “hi”. Everybody is so busy and alone at the same time.
Seeking Solutions
While the challenges are daunting, many mothers in New York City may find ways to navigate these difficulties.
1. Taking care of your energy is crucial, both for you and your children. This morning, I went to do Tai Chi – it was a wonderful way to recharge. Adding “me time” whenever you can is essential.
2. Do things that you like. One of my favorite things is taking a walk in Central Park and visiting Librairie Albertine. It’s a journey in itself. I love books, I love nature, I love beautiful places.
3. Moreover, having fun with your children and connecting as much as you can is key. Share what makes you happy, what you want them to get from you – a passion, a culture, a “façon de vivre.”
Being a mum in New York City is undoubtedly challenging. Community centers, women’s groups, and online forums offer some relief and solidarity. But taking care of your energy is the most important. With my words and my heart, I am happy to support you through this journey. Living in New York comes with its unique rewards. The diverse culture, endless opportunities for you and your children, and the vibrant energy of the city can be incredibly enriching. However, it’s essential to recognize and address the difficulties that come with it, ensuring that you, as a mother, receive the support and emotional resources that you need.
I am Laurene, Parental Coach and Consultant. I am a full-time working mum who had three kids on three different continents. I love my work, love my family, but most importantly, I love spending time supporting women like me who need the right knowledge and skills to take care of themselves and connect with their family. The most important thing we want, as mothers, is to love and make our children happy. Let’s find the balance and tools that you need to stay strong and make your life with your children a joyful and exciting journey!